DEAR BAD COP: Try talking to your husband during a calm moment when your daughter isn’t around, and make sure you start the conversation by acknowledging you both want what’s best for her. Then, work together to create a basic set of rules you both agree to follow. Consistency is key.

Dear Bad Cop: Try talking to your husband during a calm moment when your daughter isn’t around, and make sure you start the conversation by acknowledging you both want what’s best for her. Then, work together to create a basic set of rules you both agree to follow. Consistency is key.

For example, last week, when she refused to put her toys away after playing with them, I told her she couldn’t watch TV until it was done. She threw a fit, and instead of backing me up, my husband told her it was OK and helped her put the toys away himself.

These situations leave me feeling undermined and like I’m the only one enforcing rules. I don’t want her to feel she can pit us against each other, and I have also noticed myself getting more and more resentful when he takes her side over mine.